Pragma vs. Ludus
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Abby is a producer on a morning show and Mike is her newest co-worker. Abby's idea of how relationships should be is nothing like the idea of love that Mike throws around. This upsets Abby.
The tension between the two of them seems to be rooted in their approaches toward love. Abby exhibits some strong signs of the pragmatic style. According to Guerrero, "pragmatic lovers search for a person who fits a particular image in terms of vital statistics, such as, age, height, religion, and occupation."3 Abby has her own list of specific traits she wants in a significant other. However, if a relationship is based on only practical concerns, that relationship can become boring. That is exactly what happens to Abby and her neighbor's relationship.
Mike has a bit of a different approach when it comes to love. Throughout the movie Mike makes it very obvious that he believes attractiveness and sex are the key to successful relationships. He tends to go for a lot of different woman in a small amount of time. Mike follows more of the ludus style. Ludic lovers are more playful and fun when is comes to relationships. "They look for partners who are physically attractive and good lovers."4
The tension between the two of them seems to be rooted in their approaches toward love. Abby exhibits some strong signs of the pragmatic style. According to Guerrero, "pragmatic lovers search for a person who fits a particular image in terms of vital statistics, such as, age, height, religion, and occupation."3 Abby has her own list of specific traits she wants in a significant other. However, if a relationship is based on only practical concerns, that relationship can become boring. That is exactly what happens to Abby and her neighbor's relationship.
Mike has a bit of a different approach when it comes to love. Throughout the movie Mike makes it very obvious that he believes attractiveness and sex are the key to successful relationships. He tends to go for a lot of different woman in a small amount of time. Mike follows more of the ludus style. Ludic lovers are more playful and fun when is comes to relationships. "They look for partners who are physically attractive and good lovers."4
The Ugly Truth About Attraction
Figure 3-2
Abby was under the impression that dressing comfortably and conservatively was a better approach than dressing sexy when it came to attracting a decent guy. Mike had other thoughts. Mike and Abby formed an alliance, and Mike helped Abby hook her "perfect" neighbor. Mike gave Abby a complete makeover including a whole new wardrobe and hair extensions. She dressed in more form fitting clothing. This transformation did seem to work too.
Men have higher physical needs, they prefer hour glass figures, and generally have stronger sex drives. So there is a pretty good chance that Mike had the right idea. However, Abby was not in the wrong for thinking the way she did. For many women, it is more about the love than the sex.
Men have higher physical needs, they prefer hour glass figures, and generally have stronger sex drives. So there is a pretty good chance that Mike had the right idea. However, Abby was not in the wrong for thinking the way she did. For many women, it is more about the love than the sex.
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